The Changing Ways

What a peculiar time to be in this world. To feel the waves of so many different emotions ranging from fear, worry, uncertainty, mistrust to feelings of hope, intrigue, silver linings, and revolution.


Certainly none of us know what the days to come will bring, yet it feels the desire for change has echoed in our voices for years.


There is such irony in these times, as we live in a world in which we have become so disconnected from ourselves and the Earth, while also being more connected to our brothers and sisters across the globe than many of us may have realized.

These times are not easy and for some these times are completely devastating. My hope is that we can use this sudden halt of the world as we know it to elicit the change, the action and the togetherness that can help our Mother Earth and ourselves to heal.

Wishing everyone safety, health, peace and laughter.

May we go forth with love in our hearts, and gratitude in our minds… And may we get through this together.

Ease

We spend much of our lives in a state of effort. Working long hours at our jobs, pushing ourselves to make progress in our work out routines, trying to look good by doing our hair, makeup, keeping up with the latest fashion trends. Staying up late, waking up early, getting more things done in a day, being healthy, eating right, being social.

The list goes on.

But how often do we stop, and let ourselves just be? How often do we practice compassion for ourselves for the things that we can’t do, or the things we don’t want to do? How often do we listen to our bodies when they ask us for a break? How often do we truly rest?

We live in a “go-go-go” society. If we aren’t being productive, many of us feel like we are failing. But just as the seasons change from bright and blooming, to dark and drooping, so too do our energy levels. Instead of feeling guilty, why don’t we take a moment to breathe, to give ourselves permission to have easeful days? Why don’t we treat ourselves with compassion to rest, recuperate, and recharge?

Just as the seasons change, and the moon waxes and wanes, so too does the rest of nature. Perhaps, as we remember that we are part of nature, we can accept this need and invite more compassion into our days.

Flow

We all have ideas about how our lives will go. Maybe we have a vague idea of what they will look like two years, five years, twenty years down the line, or perhaps we have very specific and precise plans for our futures.

Either way, we all do this to some extent.

This is usually useful for us as we decide what we would like to study in school, the type of career we are interested in, the type of family we want, the location we would like to live, etc.

Looking ahead can help us to set goals, and work toward a life we think we want.

However, it is our ability to flow with life that can make our planning beneficial, or debilitating.

Of course, life does not go as planned – ever. We can try, force, control, hold onto preconceived notions of what we think we need or want, but as many of us know from experience, life has the final say.

In moments of surprise, unwanted change, and detours, we may feel powerless, hurt, angry, overwhelmed, and many other negative emotions. It is because life is giving us something very different than what we had planned.

Often these situations are less than favourable (though sometimes it can be quite the opposite). The loss of a loved one, heartbreaks, financial troubles, job losses, climate disasters – these are all things that we cannot plan for and more than likely do not fit in our prospective plans. But these things happen.

It is awfully cliche of me to say, but the twists and turns that occur in our lives are just as important as having things go as planned. Even the most painful, disheartening situations have something for us to learn. Perhaps, they occur to show us that we can survive. Perhaps, they occur to show us it is okay to feel into our emotions, feel pain, and sit in the darkness for a while. Perhaps, they occur to save us from more pain later on.

The thing is, no matter what situation occurs, there are numerous ways to look at it. Sometimes that way is to feel down, to be angry at the world, and to feel like a victim. If that is our journey, and that is how we feel, then that is okay. That in itself is an experience we may need to go through.

Or, perhaps, we can take a crappy situation and cycle through moments of seeing its value for growth and expansion in our lives. Perhaps, through a painful experience we can learn to be grateful for what we have and understand we cannot control every moment of our lives.

The most beautiful, life-changing experiences may happen when we least expect – when we turn down the “wrong” road, do not get the job we wanted, or whatever situation we planned for.

Sometimes, the unexpected are the true moments of growth and joy.

We can plan our entire lives out, and yet this does not guarantee anything.

We can have an idea of how we would like our lives to look, while remaining open to the possibilities, the changes, the experiences we cannot possibly account for.

We can sink when things don’t go according to plan, or we can flow in the direction life wants to take us and see each moment as an opportunity to learn.

~ written by me in 2019, but seemingly fitting in the current state of affairs among our planet ~